Hahaha! Well, remember a few things here.
1). Most of the people playing on-line in RB have been doing so for years. I've been playing since Summer of 1998. These guys are pretty good, and we're all familiar with each other.
2). It takes a bit of work to get the hang of a plane, any plane, in the game.
Now, having said that, the best way to get help is to ask! Most of the people will be more than happy to stop and give pointers.
First pointer is, get alt. LOTS of alt. Try to engage with alt, and keep it if possible. Wingmen are also helpful.
If you have a night in particular that you want to fly, let I or anyone else here know and I'm sure you can find a partner to help. I'm in a squad, but I promise not to hit you with any recruiting pitch. Just flying.
John